Blog#2 Talk in the Intimate Relationship: His and Hers

This article points out conversational differences among men and women. it states that women and men have their own unique ways of interpreting a conversation one in a more literal sense and the other using underlying messages,tone and facial cues to cue them in to what the speaker really means or what they think they meant. I communicate using the women's conversational style and as I was reading the article there were instances in which I questioned the way I communicate in my relationship. instead of communicating what I want I will just assume my partner will know what I want without me saying it . I found that I'm guilty of misinterpreting what my partner says and that my interpretations are not always right and I admit that I'm wrong so we too argue in circles. there was another instance while I was reading that i remembered my fiance and I were getting ready to go to San Diego for a family reunion. He wanted to get a separate hotel and he told his mom and as we all were talking about our plans i noticed by the tone of her voice and body language that she wanted everyone to stay in the same hotel vicinity. after our conversation I told my fiance that his mother was not okay with it and we should just stay in the same hotel but he said he didn't pick that up from her and she didn't care as to where we would stay. As I read the article i noticed that i picked up on what they really wanted because i cared abut her and her relationship which was one ting that women do. I just thought it was very interesting how we both had different accounts on how the conversation went and views about it. i really enjoyed reading this passage it was very eye opening and i think i am going to try to implement men's style of communication in my way of communicating with men and just being open and saying what i want, going straight to the point without a lot of detail, but i will still be sensitive to what others want but I'll ask them instead of assuming what they want.